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So Pharaoh asked them, “Can we find anyone like this man, one in whom is the spirit of God?”~ Genesis 41:38

Organizers are great at taking action and getting things done. They can rally the troops to make things happen. However, when this gift is improperly nurtured, it can turn into the negative identity of a control-freak. A controlling spirit (control-freak) is an unhealthy need to control others and situations.

Organizers’ Strengths:

  • good at delegating tasks
  • will assume responsibility if there is no leader
  • highly motivated to organize their responsibilities
  • able to visualize the final result
  • enjoys working on long-range goal and projects
  • has great enthusiasm for whatever they’re involved in
  • detail-oriented
  • decisive and know what they want and how to get it
  • takes action on tasks
  • excellent communicator
  • visionary
  • are focused on their tasks
  • offer ‘constructive criticism’ to others

Misapplication of the Gift: Control-freak

  • become upset when others don’t share the same vision or goals
  • tell others how to do things better
  • can be a perfectionist
  • want to be aware of everything that’s going on around them
  • always correct others and keeps an eye on them
  • bothered by the way other people do things
  • often feel they know best
  • can see others as incompetent
  • don’t trust others – need to see for yourself
  • not open to other people’s point of view
  • would rather work alone
  • can put projects ahead of people
  • angered if someone makes a decision without hearing your suggestion first
  • doubt peoples capability and sincerity
  • have to-do lists for your to-do lists
  • believe your way is the only correct way

Root Causes:

  • low self-worth
  • fear of being vulnerable or helpless
  • fear of abandonment

Limiting Beliefs:

  • If you want something done right, you’ve got to do it yourself
  • I must be in control at all times

Mindsets/Behaviors:

  • I need to be kept in the loop
  • without me things will fall apart
  • I’m responsible for holding everything together
  • if I don’t do it, no one else will

Indirect Effect on Health/Feelings of Discontent:

  • incessant need for control can be exhausting, overwhelming and stressful
  • can neglect personal needs while getting the job done
  • often frustrated with people for not doing what they should
  • why can’t people do things right

Direct Effect on Health:

  • will over-eat to regain a feeling of composure when things are out of control
  • will skip meals and then end up bingeing

Effect on Relationship with God

The whole notion of submission is difficult for a controlling person. If you have a limiting belief that you must be in control at all times and trusting others/process/God/yourself is not safe then you will have trouble trusting God and you will believe that you need to do ‘something’ and will continually take matters into your own hands.

Reset for the: Organizer/ Controller

Area to Focus: Focus on God’s love and protection for you.

1. Morning Prayers: Focus on God as your provider and protector

“Cast your cares on the Lord and He will sustain you” ~ Psalm 55:22

“Many are the plans in the mind of a man, but it is the purpose of the Lord that will stand.” ~ Proverbs 19:21

“Where were you when I laid the Earth’s foundation?” ~ Job 38:4

“And we know that for those who love God all things work together for good, for those who are called according to his purpose.” ~ Romans 8:28

“The wind blows wherever it pleases. You hear its sound, but you cannot tell where it comes from or where it is going. So it is with everyone born of the Spirit.” ~ John 3:8

2. Phrases/declarations to recite

• God is in control

• everything is as it should be

• there is nothing to worry about

3. Renew your mind

Lord, I choose to stand in your truth and not worry about what’s happening around me. You are in control and that’s all that matters.

4. Re-education of who I am

• I am assured all things work together for good (Romans 8:28)

• I have peace (Ephesians 2:14)

• I am safe (I John 5:18)

• I can give thanks for everything (Ephesians 5:20)

• I don’t have to always have my own agenda (Ephesians 5:21)

5. Long term strategies for renewal

• challenge your distorted thinking- ask yourself, ‘what’s the worst that could happen’?

• practice acceptance and self-compassion

• practice deep breathing and stress management

• learn to go with the flow

• think about how you may be making other around you feel

6. Mindset shifts

The more you try to control things the more out of control you will be,

 

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