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But first and most importantly seek (aim at, strive after) His kingdom and His righteousness [His way of doing and being right—the attitude and character of God], and all these things will be given to you also.~ Matt. 6:33 AMP.



changed prioritiesMost of us were raised to think that putting ourselves before others is selfish and ungodly but nothing could be further from the truth.

Think of the instructions they give us on an airplane, “put your own oxygen mask on first, and then assist others” if the event of loss of cabin pressure. Why? Because, to put it bluntly, you can’t help those in your care if you’re dead! The best thing you can do for those entrusted in your care is to be spiritually, physically, mentally and emotionally healthy and whole.

Here’s God’s order for your priorities: 

1.    Your relationship with God – God wants us to centre our entire lives around him – Matt. 6:33, Mark 12:30, John 15:5

2.    Yourself – As children of the most High King we can only love God and love and serve others when we love ourselves – Mark 21:31, Genesis 1:26,  Psalm 139:14, 1 Cor. 6:19

3.    Your role as wife (if you’re married) – Time with our husband builds the “one flesh” relationship of God’s design. It is is the physical demonstration of God’s relationship to the Church. – Eph 5:22

4.    Your Children – Children are a gift from the Lord (Psalm 127:3-5). They also reflect and flesh out spiritual truths about our relationship with our heavenly father – 1 John 3:1

5.    Your ministry/work – We are all called to minister to others – 1 Cor. 12:7; 1 Peter 4:10, 11

With this hierarchy in mind, ask yourself the following questions to see how you may need to adjust your priorities.

1.    Is your life centred around God?  The most effective and impactful thing we can do every day is to pursue continual communion with God. As soon as you wake up, begin conversing with Him; seek His will as you plan your day; ask Him to order your steps; ask Him what He wants you to eat; pray for strength for the day; pray for wisdom for the day. Seek Him in every single area of your life. Let this be your first priority above everything else. When this relationship is in order, everything else will fall into place. If this relationship is not where you want it to be, what can you do to begin to strengthen it?

2.    Are you able to carve out time for self-care each day?
If you don’t look after your health, you will not be able to support your family, employees, students, parents or anyone entrusted in your care to your full capacity. That’s why you need to exercise and eat healthy.
If you don’t nourish your mind; read books; keep learning and growing, you won’t have the intellectual resources you need to share with others.
If you don’t get enough sleep, you won’t have the patience, mental acuity and strength to cope life’s daily challenges.
If you don’t take the time to get to the root or what keeps you stuck and emotionally bound then you will never live the life of peace, freedom and joy that Christ died for you to receive.

3.    As a wife and mother are you in tune with the needs of your family?
Are you available for them or are you busy working or doing things for others? Is your home in order? Can they look to you as a model of health? Do you have any gas left in your tank at the end of the day for your children and especially your husband?
As women of God we want to to model how to take care of ourselves, so that the people under our influence will take care of themselves.

4 .    Are you working/serving wholeheartedly as unto the Lord as scripture instructs us? (Ephesians 6:7) When it comes to work, we can work ourselves into the ground putting in long stressful hours each day where our work become an idol. Many well intentioned people believe that their work or ministry should come before themselves or their family but that is simply not the case.

5.     God has called us to work/to serve and to minister to others. Sometimes it will require you to sacrifice in other areas of your life but it should be temporary. If a lot of time is spent with work/ministry, is your family or husband on board? Have you talked to them about it?  Are you able to still take care of yourself and your family? If your work is keeping you from your higher priorities then it’s time to reassess.

If we allow the Holy Spirit to order or steps and strip everything else away so that we’re left with a schedule based on God’s priorities, wisdom and leading we will be able to experience the divine health he created us to enjoy.
For today’s challenge:
 Which one of these 4 questions resonated with you the most? Read the corresponding scriptures and then share some of the small changes you will make to re-order your priorities. 

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