Scripture Reflection

“I have been crucified with Christ and I no longer live, but Christ lives in me. The life I now live in the body, I live by faith in the Son of God, who loved me and gave himself for me.”
Galatians 2:20

“But you are a chosen race, a royal priesthood, a holy nation, a people for his own possession, that you may proclaim the excellencies of him who called you out of darkness into his marvelous light.”  1 Peter 2:9

When you’re not in alignment with who God calls you to be, you will align with who your past, the enemy, or society says you should be. This negatively impacts our health and our weight because it is only when we are aligned with God’s will for us that we can truly desire to be in good health. Sure, we can get healthy on our own, but it’s by works which is often temporal and fleeting. When we are healthy as a natural outpouring of who we are in Christ, we will not need to struggle to maintain it.

The solution? -ground your identity in Christ. But just how do we do this? It’s not by praying more or studying more scripture. This strategy does not work, because if we are not properly aligned with Christ, then we are unable to exercise our true faith in God. Our success will be based only on our limited ability to experience Him.

The solution is to take an honest assessment of your identity, turn it over to God, learn to re-align it with His truth, and continue then to submit your thoughts, actions, habits, and beliefs over to Him until the false identity is no longer part of your daily life. This will take some time and a lot of patience, but it’s God’s desire that we draw near to Him so He promises to be with us always, even when we are unable to ‘feel’ Him. (Deut. 31:6)

Without understanding, we will remain in our cycle and never get healed of what’s been holding us back.

This week, we’re looking at three personalities, as well as how they can become ‘false identities’ when the godly gifts are misapplied out of fear. See if you can identify the role they play in your life or in the life of someone you know. Now that you identify how this plays out in your life, ask the Holy Spirit to make you aware of when you’re acting like this and allow Him to remind you of who you are in Him.

Can you identify with any of these ‘identities’ in your life or in the life or someone you know. In either case, how is it impacting your health and weight releasing?

1.  Diligent/Perfectionist psquirecartoonlady - Copy

“Then Daniel became distinguished above all the other presidents and satraps, because an excellent spirit was in him. And the king planned to set him over the whole kingdom.” Daniel 6:3

God calls us to excellence and diligence. We are called to demonstrate a higher standard in all we do. Diligent people are high achievers and have a high standard for excellence. They work very hard and want things done just right. However, this gift can turn into the negative habit of perfectionism. Perfectionism is an unhealthy pursuit of excellence. It’s an overall pervasive feeling of never being good enough for yourself, others, and God.

Diligents’ Strengths: 

  • detail-oriented
  • meticulous
  • hard workers
  • committed to growing and developing
  • committed to excellence
  • sets high standards

Misapplication of the gift: Perfectionist

  • sets expectations of unrealistic standards
  • procrastinates on getting things done
  • doesn’t trust others to get the job done correctly
  • always feel like what they’ve done is not good enough
  • hyper-conscious of making mistakes
  • always say, ‘should’, ‘must’, ‘ought to’, ‘have to’, ‘need to’
  • suffer from extreme guilt
  • sees things as black or white only
  • belittling and self-contempt
  • wastes a lot of time
  • will sacrifice sleep and food to work on a task
  • aim to be the best at everything they do regardless of what it is
  • beat up on themselves
  • does not like criticism
  • strong sense of injustice and unfairness
  • goal focused—not that interested in the process
  • tend to procrastinate as the task can get overwhelming
  • prone to depression and anxiety
  • emotionally guarded and don’t let walls down, so they can have difficulty in relationships

2.  Servant/Giver/People-Pleaser

 “The greatest among you will be your servant.” Matt 23:11psquirecartoonladyyes (1)

The Bible has a lot to say about serving, after all Jesus Christ was the ultimate servant whom we model ourselves after. The servant sees and meets the needs of others, but when this gift is not properly nurtured, it can turn in to the negative habit of people-pleasing and over-giving. People-pleasers have allowed their fear of God to be over-shadowed by their fear of people.

Servants’ Strengths:

  • have a natural desire to want to help other people
  • people-oriented
  • have a good understanding of others and emphasizes with others
  • are good listeners and people often come to them to share problems and issues
  • are committed to other people’s healing- whether in body, mind or spirit
  • feel best when in service to others
  •  can tune in to a variety of situations and adapt
  • caring for others, anticipating others needs

Misapplication of the gift: People-pleaser / Over-giver

  • over-schedule and over-commit themselves to accommodate other people
  •  say ‘yes’ when they want to say ‘no’
  • overly concerned with what people think about them
  • afraid to express their anger or discontentment
  • put other people’s needs before their own
  • not direct about what they need and expect others to read their mind
  • don’t ask for help – have an ‘I’ll do it myself’ mentality
  • give to others at the detriment of themselves
  • in a perpetual state of multi-tasking
  • don’t set limits and boundaries on allowing others too much access to them
  • over-give time, knowledge, expertise

3.  Organizer/Control-freak

So Pharaoh asked them, “Can we find anyone like this man, one in whom is the spirit of God?”~ Genesis 41:38psquirecartoonladycont


Organizers are great at taking action and getting things done. They can rally the troops to make things happen. However, when this gift is improperly nurtured, it can turn into the negative identity of a control-freak. A controlling spirit (control-freak) has an unhealthy need to control others and situations.

Organizers’ Strengths:

  • good at delegating tasks
  • will assume responsibility if there is no leader
  • highly motivated to organize their responsibilities
  • able to visualize the final result
  • enjoys working on long-range goal and projects
  • has great enthusiasm for whatever they’re involved in
  • detail-oriented
  • decisive and know what they want and how to get it
  • takes action on tasks
  • excellent communicator
  • visionary
  • are focused on their tasks
  • offer ‘constructive criticism’ to others

Misapplication of the Gift: Control-freak

  • become upset when others don’t share the same vision or goals
  • tell others how to do things better
  • can be a perfectionist
  • want to be aware of everything that’s going on around them
  • always correct others and keeps an eye on them
  • bothered by the way other people do things
  • often feel they know best
  • can see others as incompetent
  • don’t trust others – need to see for yourself
  • not open to other people’s point of view
  • would rather work alone
  • can put projects ahead of people
  • angered if someone makes a decision without hearing your suggestion first
  • doubt people’s capability and sincerity
  • have to-do lists for your to-do lists
  • believe your way is the only correct way




Can you identify with any of these ‘identities’ in your life or in the life of someone you know. In either case, how is it impacting your health and weight-releasing?

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