“He who walks with wise men will be wise, but the companion of fools will be destroyed.” ~ Proverbs 13:30
Trying to lose weight can often be a very lonely and isolating journey. No one wants their friends, family and loved ones to know how much they’re struggling so people tend to isolate themselves and try to solve their problems on their own. Unfortunately, isolation is the last thing you need and will only serve to keep you in the same cycle.
Having an accountability partner or belonging to an accountability group is one of the best things that you can do to help to accelerate your success. Here are the 3 man reasons why people don’t have accountability in their weight loss program. See if you can identify with any one or all of these.
1. Deep down inside you’re not 100% committed to your goal
There’s a popular quip that says, ‘Accountability equals responsibility’. Many well-intentioned people want to lose weight but are not ready to take responsibility to eat less, move more and monitor their habits. Its one thing to say you want to achieve a goal but if someone is monitoring you and holding you accountable, would your actions line up with your desires?
Solution: If you want to lose weight but you’re not 100% committed to your goal then take some time before you start to examine why losing weight is so important to you. If your goal is not powerful enough to pull you away from your present reality then there’s not much incentive to lose weight. Take some time and get clear on your motivation.
2. You’re too prideful to let people know that you’ve fallen off the wagon again
Many of us don’t want people to know that we’re struggling. We put on a face of false confidence for the world but we’re really hurting inside. Our pride won’t allow us to ask for help because in some way we think it will make us look weak or inadequate. This is really a false sense of pride because it takes a strong person to admit that they need help.
Solution: Choose an accountability partner or group that understands you and will not make you feel bad when you slip.
Be vulnerable, honest and willing to hear what your accountability partner has to say. Understand that the truth sometimes hurts but it will help you to grow. No one likes facing their ‘dark side’ or feeling like their ‘stuff ‘is being exposed but trust that these steps are beneficial for your growth and eventual victory.
3. You can be a control freak and don’t want to rely on the help of another
Many people who have a fear of trust really think that they can do it on their own and don’t need anyone’s help. Even though they have tried and failed so many times, they still think that they can do it on their own.
Solution: Accountability groups are great for people in this category because once they join a group, they realize that there are a lot of other people like them going through similar struggles.
Like many other strongholds, weight releasing is not a journey that you should even attempt to do on your own.
As you go through challenges, you will need others around you who will motivate you, help build your integrity, show you how loved and cherished you are, give you a different perspective that you may be unable to see on your own, and create a hedge of protection around you.
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Until Next Week,