How to Make the Hard Things in your Life Easy

This week, ( last week I was depressed about something else) I’m struggling with the question of ‘why do things have to be so hard?’ More specifically, why is it so hard to eat healthy, why is so hard to make time to exercise; why is it so hard to be nice to some people; why is it so hard to save money instead of spend it; why is it so hard to get motivated some days ; why is it so hard to be ‘successful’ in business; and most importantly, why is it so hard to surrender my flesh to God?

So I put this question to God a few days ago. I said, “God, if you really want us to follow you  then why did you make us with such strong wills, desires and appetites. After all, wouldn’t we all be happier and more content if life were easier?”

Over a few days of asking this question over and over again, my response from God was incredible and shocking (through reading my devotions). This is how I heard God respond:

  1. The ‘easy’ that you want is the exact thing that is making your life ‘hard’.
  2. The things that you perceive as hard are what will make your life great.
  3. The hard will become easy when you do it not in your own strength but in mine.
  4. Doing great things require faith and trust.

Here’s a more detailed response to the 4 insights that God gave me:

1. Insight #1- The ‘easy’ that I want is the exact thing that is making my life ‘hard’

Life is hard because doing the wrong things is easy.

  • Not taking action is easy
  • Cutting corners is easy
  • Doing our own thing is easy
  • Quitting is easy
  • Giving in to distractions is easy
  • Letting your emotions control you is easy
  • Doing what you ‘feel’ like is easy
  • Living without boundaries or constraint is easy

From a health perspective:

  • Eating junk food is easy
  • Laying on the couch instead of exercising is easy
  • remaining addicted to sugar is easy
  • watching countless hours of TV is easy
  • allowing every negative thought to come into your mind is easy

The bible says: “The easy road that you want will only lead to your destruction.” I heard him say. “Enter by the narrow gate. For the gate is wide and the way is easy that leads to destruction, and those who enter by it are many. Matthew 7:13. 

2. Insight #2: The things that I perceive as hard are what will make my life great

Life seems hard because of the perceive fear/pain of work

  • Waking up early to pray instead of sleeping in
  • Going to church instead of using the time in other ways
  • Giving beyond what is comfortable
  • Refusing to eat unhealthy foods
  • Refusing to settle for mediocrity
  • Refusing to blame others
  • Refusing to make excuses
  • Refusing to procrastinate
  • Stepping out of your comfort zone
  • Refusing to quit after a setback
  • Giving something 100% effort
  • Acting in spite of fear
  • Ignoring what other people think or say about you
  • Choosing to listen to God’s voice other all others
  • Serving others instead of focusing on yourself or on the contrary, serving others so you don’t have to look internally at yourself

The bible says: “Consider it pure joy, my brothers and sisters, whenever you face trials of many kinds, because you know that the testing of your faith produces perseverance. Let perseverance finish its work so that you may be mature and complete, not lacking anything”~ James 1:2-4

3. Insight #3 – The hard will become easy when you do it not in your own strength but in mine.

If you’re anything like me then you’re starting to realize the magnitude of your New Year’s Resolution(s). The reality of what was proclaimed in passion and motivation just a couple of weeks ago is now causing you some stress and frustration. That’s because the high emotional feelings that made us declare the changes we desired are not sustainable. If they were, we would have reached our goals already. What once motivated us is now causing us disappointment in ourselves and sets up feelings of failure and this is the reason why we were never ‘designed’ to fight our battles on our own. Trying to lose weight or any other stumbling block on our own is a recipe for failure in the life of a believer.

The bible says: “Come to Me, all who are weary and heavy-laden, and I will give you rest. Take My yoke upon you and learn from Me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and YOU WILL FIND REST FOR YOUR SOULS. For My yoke is easy and My burden is light.”~ Matthew 11:28-30

4. Insight #4- Doing great things require faith and  trust. 

Finally, the Lord lovingly asked me the question, “Will you trust me?” My answer is a resounding yes and with that all is well with me again— at least for another week— LOL!

I admit that my faith is weak and so I pray for my faith to be strengthened daily. But all I need is faith the size of a mustard seed and every once in a while I can muster up that amount which is just enough to get me through to the next day.

My desire is to do great things for God so for today I will not complain about things being too hard. I’m learning that its not my job to take on what seems impossible; my job is to turn it over to God and allow Him to work in me.

“Truly I tell you, if you have faith as small as a mustard seed, you can say to this mountain, ‘Move from here to there,’ and it will move. Nothing will be impossible for you.” ~ Matthew 17:20

I know that whenever I’m struggling with a question or issue my loving father is always there to answer it. In my arrogance, I actually thought I would have stumped him with this question.—LOL!!!

I pray this message blesses you as much as it blessed me.

If the  emotional high of your New Year’s resolution is also now making you frustrated and disappointed in yourself then join me on Wednesday January 28 as we talk about Handling Setbacks in your Weight Loss Program. Register here at

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Cathy your honesty and transparency is refreshing. Thanks for sharing!


Hello Cathy,

This is really thought provoking and I would be mediating over it this weekend. Am grateful to be part of this program.
Thank you and stay blessed